“The Truth is already in you. You are the Truth.” ~Bearji
“The Truth is already in you. You are the Truth.” ~Bearji
“You will see you already have all the answers you’ll ever need, right here and now in the silent mind of not knowing and an empty and open Heart.” ~Bearji
Where is the resistance in you to awakening to the Grace of Being as All Love?
The ego aspect of mind is conditioned from birth. We build egoic identification structures from our life experience, which become our beliefs. In any attempt at understanding anything, our mind accesses memory from all our learned experiences. Also meaning we see all of life through ego’s filters of perception. Beliefs are false identifications of the ego.
The secret trick here is to drop all of your “story” for an instant. In dropping all of your storylines, including; I have a name, I am my job, I am a man, I am a woman, I am my beautiful yoga body, I am unworthy…
Just now for a split second let go of all ideas and concepts of the ego mind. Rest in this silence where there is nothing to identify with. Then you will see you already have all the answers you’ll ever need, right here and now in the silent mind of not knowing and an empty and open Heart.
The opportunity and invitation I offer are to awaken spontaneously to your True Nature as Love Itself. Be still and hold these Truths in your heart and allow them to expand into the limitless stillness of Grace. There is no escaping the Grace of Love, or Love Itself. Silence is the attracting force of Love. Be still and allow Truth and Love to come to you.
I thought of you because I am in yet another dilemma and I don’t want to create karma again for myself.
I am married to a foreigner, and it’s been quite some time that we are separated from each other. Meaning we live separately…. he wants to have a divorce because he has someone else in his life.
Now every time I talk about him doing the procedure for divorce, he comes up with all kinds of excuses as firstly he doesn’t want to spend money on that and secondly he will need to leave my country as per the law.
So he is happy staying here with another woman and freely and everyone kind of finding out that he has left me now as he is openly taking that other woman out.
I wanna write to the immigration authority because legally it is required… that I put an entry at the police station, etc.. But if I don’t do that it means my husband will continue to use me in a way to stay here while he is not with me?
I am angry at that thought and tired of him using me like that.
Can you put some light into this situation? Am I being bad for thinking that way? Will it create karma for me because I am hating this situation and want him out of here? Which anyways he shouldn’t be here if he’s going for divorce!!!
Bearji: “Karma has a balancing power. Clearly, you have something inside of you which is seeking this balance. It is challenging I can tell as you are faced with both legal and moral dilemma.
First, it may be a good idea to investigate your anger. What is it that is at the core of this anger? You mentioned the feelings of being used…
Now you have an opportunity to investigate “being used,” and see what is under that. Whatever it is, or wherever this thread leads, is just information. It can be valuable information to some… But the real work is yet to come even after recognizing more mother issues, father issues, or whatever it is which fixates the ego.
The solution is found in taking your awareness out of your mind and into your feeling nature. Imagine you can then feel the anger, no matter what, who, when and where… Just feel ANGER.
We are all conditioned from early childhood. We build structures of belief systems from our life experience. And our beliefs have seemingly worked well for us, at least as far as survival strategies… Yet, beliefs are false identifications of the ego. So the secret trick here is to drop all of your “story” for an instant.
Let go of, “I am a person who is being used (or whatever)… I am not happy… I am worried about my Karma…” And then drop all of your histories… Going all the way back to release all memory… Memory will still be there… Have no fear.
Just now for a split second let go of all ideas and concepts. Rest in this silence. Then you will see you already have all the answers you’ll ever need, right here and now in the silent mind of not knowing.
Now, my counsel might be something like: This is your anger, not his. Be responsible only for you. Yet, being responsible for only you means you have no need to worry about his karma. Who can say what will appear for him next? We’ll see, right? I may even say that it could be that it is perfect for him no matter what happens next… AS IT WILL BE!
He may go back home or somewhere else or marry this new woman. Who cares? Whatever is next for him is next for him. What is next for you will be equally just what’s right. No matter what comes, goes or stays… this is where acceptance is the teacher.
You said, “…he is happy staying here with another woman…”
Let him be happy in this way.
But let yourself be happy too with what you need. It is your choice. Hold your awareness in your heart center, still the mind, relax the body… Continue to be still and as the answers unfold for you, just let them. Then… do not doubt your Heart.
Action or non-action, write the authorities or don’t write the authorities doesn’t matter, there is no escaping karma. Not until one is fully enlightened, my dear. Which also means, there is no escaping the Grace of Love, or Love Itself.
Be still and take care of YOUR heart. Be still and allow Truth to come to you. This is what matters.
Be well, my dear…
You are not your name, not your job, not even your gender. You have a body, but you are not this body. You are consciousness becoming aware of your own Self as the nature of Clear Awareness, That which is One Awareness. You are That which has never been born and never dies. This is the eternal life which religions around the world point. I feel it is mostly misunderstood as some kind of body-form in yet another form, as in an eternal heaven.
Until the ego dissolves in the Clear Light of Truth, it will continue to attach on to and identify with anything and everything, including all kinds of ideas about Hell realms and Heavenly afterlife Bliss.
No matter what the intellect knows, or thinks it knows, the Heart must be ‘realize.’ It is all revealed as empty Oneness, where there are no forms. This is what needs to be realized before one can move through pure lands, heavens and unimaginable phenomenon. The paradox here is that one must realize Self as empty Oneness, before dancing in other realms, pure lands, and heavens. It must always remain a mystery, and this is what the ego cannot accept is this mystery, as in limitless emptiness there is no other for ego identification.
The suffering lies in our desires, reaching, obsessing, and grasping a happier future. AND in the running away from not only the past but all other ‘abominations.’ (HELL) All of which are mind created and supported, which are actually false identifications of the ego. This requires SO MUCH EFFORT!
Ask yourself ‘Who am I?’ and be still in the non-answer. Relax the mind. Rest the mind into the mysterious unknown silent Beloved. The joke here is that BEING STILL is what takes no effort.”
HR: “Kindly tell me how to get rid of over thinking, anxiety, and fear.”
Bearji: “Breathe. Breathe deeply… Calm the mind, and relax the body.
As the body relaxes so does the mind. Keep breathing and relaxing… There is nothing else to do when anxiety appears but focus on your breath. Breathe slowly and deeply and relax all the muscles in your body. When you calm down and feel like you never want this to happen again, this is when you must discover what it is at the core of the egos fear.
Be still, and hold your awareness on your heart center and not at all on thoughts of the mind. Be Still right now and allow your awareness to follow the thread back to the core of your fear. Simply witness what it is which creates so much fear within.”
HR: “Fear of death.”
Bearji: “Yes, of course… So imagine at this moment that you can die right now. Feel what it feels like to have the willingness to die right now, today, this moment…
You are not your name, not your job, not even your gender. You have a body, but you are not this body. You are consciousness becoming aware of your own Self as the nature of Clear Awareness, That which is One Awareness. You are that which was never born and never dies. This is the eternal life which religions around the world point. I feel it is mostly misunderstood as some kind of body form in yet another form, as in an eternal heaven.
Now, imagine you can let go of all thoughts, ideas, and concepts about life, death, and afterlife. Pure awareness is often called emptiness for a great reason; as what could there be beyond emptiness? In the awakened state, Awareness Itself reveals LOVE. Love is the word which is used so often for the experience that is so empty and paradoxically so FULL at the same time. In this Clear Light experience, it is also ‘known’ as limitless Self. You are That!
So now imagine that after the body drops, consciousness continues. As Self.
Let’s stop right here for a second. Tell me, what are you aware of now?”
HR: “Sir, I know each is everything but hard to accept the fact. I know the real goal of life is ‘Who Am I?’ I’m just 37 yr old.”
Bearji: “Again, relax your body and relax your mind… Breathe… slowly… Now imagine you can die right now, that you have the willingness to die… Whatever is in the way of your willingness to honestly imagining ‘dying’ at this moment is where to hold your awareness. All that is needed for right now is for you to recognize your triggers for feeling so much fear of death.
With this awareness, you can now heal yourself on multiple levels. One is you may choose to sit with an elder, a counselor or spiritual teacher as to process releasing the past and deeper recognition of your real potential.
You will have tools to use now using your breath. Practice this; you will get better at knowing what works just right for you in any given situation. It gets much easier and very quickly too. My personal experience.
Now is also an opportunity to learn a mindfulness practice and acceptance. The suffering lies in our desires, reaching, obsessing, and grasping a happier future. AND in the running away from not only the past but all other ‘abominations.’ All of which are mind created and supported, which are actually false identifications of the ego. This requires SO MUCH EFFORT!
Until the ego dissolves in the Clear Light of Truth, it will continue to attach on to and identify with anything and everything, including all kinds of ideas about Heavenly and afterlife Bliss. The ego is always changing its mind about who it thinks it is, and that’s okay… but you can harness that force and just inquire into your own Self with the question you already know. ‘Who am I?'”
HR: “Fear is in mind… It’s all mind game… What [do] you think you become? What [do] you imagine you create?”
Bearji: “Ha! … Listen to me again… No more thinking.
No matter what the intellect knows, or thinks it knows, the heart must be ‘realize.’ It is all revealed as empty Oneness, where there are no forms. This is what needs to be realized before one can move through pure lands, heavens and unimaginable phenomenon. The paradox here is that one must realize Self as empty Oneness, before dancing in other realms, pure lands, and heavens. It must always remain a mystery, and this is what the ego cannot accept is this mystery.
These are the final instructions which will one day be the last words you and many many others will hear from their Final Teacher.
Stop. Be Still. Not know. Relax, truly relax. Breathe… be in the now. Just be still… And, as Papaji would say, ‘Keep quiet!’
There is no-thing. No thing to compare for any identification or objectification. Oneness is even beyond the idea of Oneness. ‘I am’ is just a tool to point to where the ‘I’ disappears.
This is where you are right now! So no need to wait. It ends up being LOVE ITSELF. You are this LOVE… Nothing more and nothing less. EVER!”
HR: “I did everything to keep myself fit. But I want to be mentally fit. Mental toughness! Which is more important?”
Bearji: “In one word – Heart. The Heart is most important. The heart of compassion and loving kindness… No toughness! Soft, ease, allowing Grace to unfold in the present moment.
This is the last time I’m saying this to you. NOT mind. Heart, love, mental stillness… Quite and relaxed. Ask yourself ‘Who am I?’ and be still in the non-answer. Relax the mind. Rest the mind into the Mysterious unknown Beloved. The joke here is that this is what takes no effort. Be Still.”
HR: “I know sir, [the] heart is more important coz all love, compassion, and creativity is in [the] heart.”
Bearji” “Stop seeking to create or leave something behind after death. BE HERE. Be here now! STOP thinking. Rest into your own breath. Awaken and then give your life to the creative forces of Self. Let yourself be used by this One; which is Creation Itself.”
HR: “I’m Soo Soo glad sir. Thank you, Soo much.”
Bearji: “Very good. Blessings…”
Whatever the divine music which sings in your heart, give your life to That. Surrendering the ego’s grasp of your individual story line releases identifications and beliefs that have been there since childbirth, in fact for lifetimes. This silent Awareness reveals all its secrets and nothing is needed. Any movement of ego to get its life back will fail if you have already died. Leaving everything so far behind there is no past, letting go of all the grasping onto a future not yet here, only leaves You in Awareness. This only requires the time it takes to exhale. Give your life to That and you will see, even the ego is not there… This is freedom, peace, joy, and happiness in whatever life brings or takes away. Be still now on your next exhale! Do not believe anything, do not expect anything, release any attachment to staying they way you are. Simply be Still. Not Know. Wake up… Time to wake up… ~Bearji
There is nothing to find. There is no one to meet. The silent awareness within me is the One silent awareness within you. Silent Awareness is Here. I am you, where the “I” disappears. ~Bearji
Bali, hand carved skull
Love exists to guide us all to the One Love, One Heart. Beloved… Be Loved. Love exists. ~Bearji
Empty consciousness appears out of nothingness with a purification fire of endless awakening to the true nature of Love. Welcome whatever comes as the intention of Karma is purification. This is Grace. Love Itself is a constant Self-Love expression, no matter how it appears. Grace leads Itself into more Grace. ~Bearji